This self-help book is dedicated to her husband Rod, an
unconditional supporter, and to her daughters, the pride of her life,
additionally featuring testimonials from individuals that it helped and
acknowledgements to sundry individuals with medical expertise that guided her
on a path to better health and made possible the guide. Opening the book is a
quote from William Johnsen and a saying by the fourteenth Dalai Lama starting
the prologue. The author wants to share her wisdom with others since she doesn’t
want others to suffer as she did, the author mentioning that she slipped, fell,
and broke her hip when she was thirty.
Staveley further mentions three primary principles in the
quest towards recovery, including the establishment of a problem-solving
mindset, building a team to help, and the need to expect perseverance in the
journey. She builds the book’s section upon these principles alongside a fourth
section dealing with chronic pain. Three chief aspects of North American
healthcare also drive the expectation of a health revolution, including the
payment by a third party with knowledge that someone else knows what’s best to
address health concerns, the “patching up” of health problems rather than
search for long-term solutions, and that many doctors do not have adequate
trainings in the achievement of optimal health.
Section I dedicates itself to readers setting themselves up
to be problem solvers when it comes to questions of health, its first chapter
challenging individuals to identify what’s holding them back, and notes that
focusing on “numbing the pain” stunts growth opportunities. Staveley provides
the analogy of seeing the forest, the big pictures of things, as opposed to the
trees, the trivial aspects of pain. She mentions three characteristics of
wholehearted living, including courage to embrace being imperfect, feeling
compassion for others, and believing that what makes one vulnerable also makes
one beautiful. The book goes on to ask how the reader handles adversity, if
they accept themselves for who they are, and if they “numb” problems instead of
facing them directly.
The first chapter afterward provides several steps for
practicing gratitude, and highlights two stories that view weaknesses as
opportunities for growth. Then she brings to light a “magic wand” exercise
where readers ask what they’d wish for, with blank tables allowing the book’s
audience members to write in their wishes, following which is a list of
questions that help them identify if they’re doing everything in their power to
recover, such as identifying a greater purpose in life, setting measurable
goals, researching the best medical professionals, and leading the discussion
on recovery whenever they have a health appointment.
Chapter Two dedicates itself to readers establishing their “why,”
opening with quotes from Friedrich Nietzsche and Nathaniel Hawthorne, noting
that purpose can trump fear. The author narrates a story about how she began
and progressed through her career as a Pharmaceutical Sales Representative,
after which she relays the reader many questions that deal with topics such as
how life will be better when the audience improves their wellness. Staveley asks
what it means for people to be healthy as they can be, terminating the chapter
with the statement that getting to one’s healthiest state is a journey and
battle fought daily.
Chapter Three deals with goalsetting and opens with a Denis
Waitley quote, after which the author again emphasizes the importance of
completing the second step in the journey to overcoming pain. She establishes a
guideline of creating appropriate goals, with the descriptions of Specific,
Measureable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-sensitive, forming the acronym
SMART. The author proceeds to ask more questions about the adjustment of
maximum motivation, and concludes the chapter with a story about how one can
disassociate himself or herself from the outcome of negotiation. Terminating
the section is a synopsis of the primary points of the first three chapters.
Staveley commences Section II assuming the reader has
established a mindset of purpose and goals about his or her health. She mentions
a story about how Albert Einstein said that had he an hour to save the world,
he would dedicate fifty-five minutes to defining the problem and five minutes
attempting to solve it. The author offers nine strategies for readers to use to
apply to their health problems if possible: rephrasing the problem, exposing
and challenging assumptions, making problem pieces bigger, making them smaller,
finding alternate perspectives, using various language constructs, making the
problem engaging, looking at it backwards, and gathering facts.
Chapter Four, opened with a Maya Angelou quote, involves
developing and using one’s social support network, which involves three chief
steps: identifying supporters, leveraging knowledge and experience of your
network, and taking action. Staveley suggests not only associating with positive,
supportive people, but with those who inspire. She further notes that those on
the path to recovery can acquire resources from people with whom they regularly
associate, bringing forth the animalian analogy of the ostrich, which feeds
with others from its group and uses its social skills to avert predators.
A Lucas Remmerswaal quote opens the fifth chapter, which
involves the selection and challenge of the right healthcare professionals.
Staveley suggests the preparation steps of compiling a list of symptoms and
related circumstances, composing several questions to ask their provider, and
doing research, for instance, by gathering information from others who have
suffered similar symptoms. She follows with a list of issues to consider when
dealing with health professionals, alongside research such as looking into lists
of best metropolitan doctors, and urges readers to be ready for several
potential responses by doctors to a patient’s symptoms.
Staveley further suggests thinking outside the box by
looking into non-MD individuals for help such as chiropractors and occupational
therapists. She provides extensive thoughts about general practitioners and
specialists, noting that many receive salary based on how many patients they
see during a regular day. A list of websites the author provides as well, such
as the Mayo Clinic’s page and WebMD for patients to prepare for their medical
visits, and she suggests going through a scientific method in determining
symptoms and potential causes of ailments. She notes that questions can lead to
productive interactions, further suggesting patients receive all their
available options, share their experiences, and concludes the chapter with a
list of important minerals necessary for healthy lifestyles such as calcium and
iodine.
Chapter Six opens with a quote from American Vice President
Joseph Biden, Staveley noting that readers should be ready to invest finances
in their quests to recovery. She indicates her seventeen-year journey through
Canada’s healthcare system proved wrong the assumption that treatments she didn’t
have to pay for were most effective, and provides a table for readers to
theorize their potential expenses. The author poses various questions to
consider such as the effectiveness of optional treatments, and encourages
readers to carefully analyze their financial situations. In the Section II
summary, she provides checklists of various things the reader should be doing
in their adventure towards better wellness.
Section III opens with brief mention that it will provide
the reader with tools to persist and persevere with their healthcare
approaches. Chapter Seven deals with the implementation of potential health
solutions, and suggests the audience asks questions of their care providers
such as what medicine does exactly. The author explains what to do if the
reader doesn’t like a doctor-recommended solution, relaying the story of a
nurse that suffered from post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) after her return
from war. She concludes by emphasizing that even if a doctor’s recommendation
isn’t pleasant, they should go through with it anyway.
Chapter Eight deals with the everyday search for motivators
to keep patients going towards their healthcare goals, and opens with a
selection of music that can motivate the audience, such as “Inner Ninja” by
Classified, with their lyrics allegedly being inspiring, and which she suggests
readers can apply towards their goals. She suggests various visual indicators
such as images of people the reader loves to keep them going. The chapter
concludes that the right aural and visual indicators can be sufficient
motivators towards wellness goals.
Chapter Nine presents the final steps on the journey towards
the conquest of pain, which is to never, ever give up, a Winston Churchill
quote emphasizing this. Staveley suggests turning adversity into advantage, and
mentions that deep happiness is inaccessible without overcoming challenges. She
acknowledges that there is no such thing as one-hundred-percent healthiness,
and urges her audience to inquire what the lessons of setbacks are. The author
lists several expectations of those on the journey towards improved health, such
as giving treatments time, working on weaknesses, overcoming adversity, and
acknowledging that the quest for better wellness is neverending. Concluding is
the story of a blind man who received cataract surgery and could see, Section
III ending with another checklist for readers.
Section IV promises to narrate the author’s experience with
chronic pain and triathlons, the tenth chapter being her tale of how she
overcame chronic myofascial pain syndrome. She describes the condition itself,
following which are approaches that alleviated her condition, including changes
in nutrition, and she provides a list of mineral depletion causes such as
alcoholic and caffeinated beverages, not to mention “in” foods such as fruits
and vegetables and “out” foods such as most bread and pasta. Addition
approaches such as supplements Staveley suggests too, not to mention yoga and
massage, and the reader finding out what works best for them.
The eleventh chapter opens with the assurance that perfect
health is not necessary for participation in athletic events such as triathlons,
and that one can stay healthy in spite of a fragile body. Staveley details her
training for triathlons and ultimate competition in an IRONMAN event,
suggesting as well necessary equipment and preparation. She gives some tips on
strength and flexibility training, and suggests that family members become
involved to ensure their wellness, as well. The author concludes by mentioning
that there is no magic cure for better health, alongside lists such as
resources and her training song playlist.
In the end, this is an excellent guide to self-recovery,
giving nice detail to the author’s nine essential steps, and this reviewer, as
an autistic adult, can certainly emphasize with those who need to take certain
steps to better well-beings, and has suffered emotionally due to things such as
things beyond his control. This reviewer can furthermore relate to the author’s
overcoming of adversity, and, even prior to reading the book, has had an
effective plan for fitness, although he very much still needs to work on
achieving optimum mental health. Overall, this reviewer would highly recommend
this self-improvement guide to those young and old in need of major changes to
their wellness.
Author's Bio:
After
suffering 13 years of debilitation caused by a chronic myofascial pain
condition, Carole Staveley realized there was no “magic bullet” coming
to her rescue. She took charge of solving her health challenges and went
on to complete an IRONMAN triathlon in 2013. Carole’s book, Conquer
Your Pain in 9 Steps, takes you through her proven 9-step Health
Champion approach to suffering less and achieving more. Carole Staveley
is President of Inner Victory Coaching, an organization she founded to
empower others to become their own Health Champions and reach their full
potential.
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Interview questions from Jeremy, blogger at The Autistic Gamer
1. What special advice would you give to adults on the autism spectrum such as myself to overcoming pain such as that emotional?
A:
Emotional pain and mental health need to be approached in a similar way
as the approach I've laid out in my book. We can't achieve our fullest
physical health unless our mental / emotional issues are also being
addressed and vice-versa. In some cases, the person suffering might not
be able to be their own "Health Champion" and that responsibility will
fall on the individual appointed to care for that person (for example,
someone severely affected by autism spectrum who requires assistance for
daily living). Whether it's the person who is suffering or the
caregiver, the approach should be the same: 1. Develop a Health Champion
mindset. Recognize that you alone are responsible for achieving your
best health outcomes; 2. Build and leverage your health team. Tap into
your social network, and act on their tips and suggestions. Identify
health professionals who are collaborative, and take responsibility for
challenging their knowledge - engage them in discussions that could lead
to even better solutions for your particular case; and 3. Persevere.
It's a journey filled with adversity, and it's by confronting the
adversity that we grow to new heights. Never, ever give up on making
progress toward a better version of you.
2. What's your take on psychiatric assistance for recovery such as that I receive?
A:
I'm not familiar with the details of the type of psychiatric care you
receive. However, psychiatrists, as with all different types of health
professionals, can be a valuable resource on your road to recovery. The
key is to not sit back and expect that the psychiatrist has all the
answers, that he/she will do all that is necessary to achieve the best
possible outcome. It's important to view him/her as one of your team
members, and not as the "untouchable guru" who can't be challenged.
3.
I lost a fourth of my body weight with Wii Fit Plus for the Nintendo
Wii and maintain my BMI of 22 by avoiding snacking and desserts on days
in which it goes above that number, and eating extra and snacking on
days when it falls below. Would you recommend a similar method of weight
maintenance?
A: Whether an
approach to your health goal is successful depends on many factors,
including your personality and your readiness for behavior change. It's
great that you found something that works for you. If the goal is to
lose weight, I think the individual needs to spend some time thinking
about the following: (1) WHY do I want to lose weight? What positive
changes could occur in my life as a result of weight loss? How can I
carry out my life purpose and positively impact others if I lose weight
and feel better? (2) How have I successfully implemented significant
behavioral changes in my life in the past? What aspects of that approach
can I apply to this weight loss challenge? (3) Who can I enlist to help
me through the process - both as an accountability partner and as a
supporter?
4. Is lunch as important a meal in the day as breakfast?
A.
I eat 5 or 6 times per day, and I view each one of those meals / snacks
as being equally important! Keeping your blood sugar levels from
fluctuating too much and making sure you're feeding your body with
nutrition that allows it to thrive will contribute to reducing cravings
and the tendency to dive for the junk food!
5.
I weighed as much as 210 lbs and am now down to around 155, although I
attribute this solely to my personal weight loss goals established by
the aforementioned Wii Fit Plus. Would you consider it possible for
others such as myself to work for themselves in reaching goals such as
weight loss and overcoming pain?
A.
Congratulations on reaching your goal! The fact that you found the
approach that worked for you is testimony to the fact that by keeping up
the search and believing there are solutions out there for you, you can
achieve things you never thought possible. It's all about believing you
have the power to identify the resources that can help you and to
implement the solutions you discover on your journey. We can all achieve
much more than we think is possible today - no matter what our starting
point.
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